Sweetheart Tables – Not So Sweet

Many times I go to a wedding and I see that the floor plan includes a sweetheart table, which is a table for just the bride and groom or a head table, which is a table for just the wedding party, all sitting on one side of the table facing the same direction. Both of these table types are good for pictures however to sit at them for dinner is BOOOORRING!

As a bride and groom, you have invited the people in your life that you care the most about to join you on your special day.  If you opt for a sweetheart table, the two of you sit by yourselves and watch everyone else sit at tables of ten having a good old time while the two of you quietly eat. I’ve probably seen this 500 times. The bride and groom either quickly eat or don’t eat and get up and start going table to table to interact with the guests and thank them for coming. In a head table situation, you can easily get caught in the trap where the person on each side of you is talking to the person on the other side of them and you have no one to talk with. The dates of the bridesmaids and groomsmen sit at another table, without their dates.

In my humble opinion, the most fun you can have at dinner during your reception is to sit at a round table for ten people with your close family members, your wedding party, some members of your wedding party and their dates or your eight favorite people in the room. Usually, no one will analyze why the seating chart is the way it is.

If there isn’t table numbers and/or assigned seating, plainly mark two seats, one for the bride and one for the groom and sit with whatever eight people choose to join you. This is important because I’ve seen many times where the bride and groom (always the last to enter the room) don’t have a seat at all.

In conclusion. Sweetheart and head tables make for good pictures. If you want good pictures more than you want to enjoy a social dinner, go for it! If you want to have a fun social dinner with your loved ones, now you know how! 😉

My New Blog

Well Hello,

I’ve been a wedding DJ since 1994, a little over 21 years and over 1900 events, mostly weddings. I have seen some CRAZY stuff over the years and I have seen some wonderful things.  I love my job, I can’t imagine doing anything else and that is pretty amazing to me because up until I started being a DJ, I didn’t love any job I had before that. I feel that I found my calling, I was born to DJ weddings! Now it would be nice if I was born to be a brain surgeon or something that paid millions of dollars but  just the fact that I have lived the past 21 years loving my job is something many people never get to experience for even a day. So in that regard I consider myself a very lucky guy.

I’ve been asked what the craziest thing I’ve ever seen at a wedding was and what song I play the most and what’s the worst thing I’ve seen etc.. I don’t know how many people will find this blog and read it, but I’m going to try and have a little fun with it.

Stories are a sensitive topic for engaged people because I’ve found that if I tell any of my crazy stories to couples planning a wedding, they start wondering if whatever I just told them is going to happen at their wedding. But if you do the math, 99.5% of my weddings have gone flawlessly. It’s the other .05% that make for the good stories. I’ve seen 175 people sing along and jump up and down in time to Don’t Stop Believin’ and it was incredible. I’ve seen a groom surprise his bride a new Porsche on their wedding day and it was incredible. I’ve seen a few things that weren’t so incredible as well.

I’ll get into some of my most interesting stories and some of my professional opinions as well. I’m going to write an article about sweetheart tables and head tables sometime soon because they aren’t as much fun as they seem.

Stay tuned and thanks for reading my first post!